It’s been way too long, friends, way too long! I disconnected, there’s a reason, and haven’t been back since. But my gosh how much I missed my blog!
Around the last time you heard from me was October, as I was participating in a writing challenge to post something everyday for the month of October. Well, clearly I didn’t finish the challenge but that’s okay. Better luck next time, Charlie!So where have I been? Well, I’m not really good at hiding the truth so here goes…
WARNING*** THE FOLLOWING CAN BE CLASSIFIED AS TMI. ***WARNING
Well, on October 1st I started what I believed to be my menstrual cycle. I had just stopped nursing my youngest little Bee in September so I wasn’t surprised. To me, the bleeding was normal and nothing out of the ordinary as far as flow. What did strike me as different was the fact that I actually had a day seven, when normally my cycle is three to five days. However, I hadn’t had a cycle in over a year and figured my body was just reprogramming itself. Day eight rolled around and it seemed as though it was over. I went on about my day as normal without wearing any type of product to protect my clothing. BIG MISTAKE!
I husband and I had enrolled in a class at church and as I was dropping the girls off in childcare I felt a large gush. I quickly walked to the nearest restroom and I was totally confused. My jeans were stained in the but I had on a shirt long enough to cover. I cleaned myself up so and fixed my clothes so that I could walk out of church with my head held high and go home. The bleeding continued for four more days before I gave my dad, a physician’s assistant who practices family medicine a call on that Friday. (Now for some, this may be strange that I called my dad, that’s fine. However, he does “exams” on women on a daily basis and he’s my dad. I know he’ll look out for my best interest and give great medical advice.)
“Dad, I need you to think of me as a patient and not as your daughter,” I start off. “My cycle has been on for 9 days and I think it’s because I just stopped nursing Braelynn. It’s never lasted this long and the flow isn’t light, it’s heavy and there’s clotting. Do you think I should call my doctor?”
“Yes, definitely give her a call and see if she can get you in soon. Most likely, Erika, she’s going to “restart” your cycle by starting you on some form of birth control. Or are you already on birth control,” he asks.
“No, I’m not,” I respond.
“Erika, what?! Girl, you are going to get pregnant again and very fast,” he states.
To which I reply, “Dad, I’ve been nursing and I didn’t need it.”
“Erika, you are going to be pregnant,” he says again. (sign #1)
And of course my know-it-all self said (with a lot of sass I might add), “No, I’m not. I literally just stopped nursing and it’s worked up until now so I think I’m good.”
We hung up the phone and I called a couple of OBGYN’s in the area and all of them were booked until January for new patients. (I refused to see my last OBGYN for various reasons, another blog post for that.) So I called my primary doctor on Monday, who was able to see the following day, day 13 of the bleeding.
That Tuesday I went in and did the normal preliminary weigh-in, blood pressure check, temperature and etc. My blood pressure was somewhere around 114/74 and I remember the nurse asking me if that was normal for me. Without giving it a second thought, I replied, “Only when I’m pregnant.” (sign #2….Are you smelling what I’m cooking here?)
The nurse left and came back a couple of minutes later and asked if I could give a urine sample to which I did. (sign #3)
Let me pause here, while I’m signaling the signs for you, let me just tell you I did not recognize the signs for the life of me!
My doctor came in and asked questions about what I was experiencing and then she asked me, “Are you sexually active?” People, is it just me or do you get uncomfortable when a doctor ask you even when you’re married?!
“Well, your urine test came back positive for pregnancy and your numbers are pretty high so I’ll put you right around four to five weeks,” she states.
It’s a good thing I didn’t lie and tell her no regarding being sexually active but I did say, “That’s not possible.” I’m a smart gal, ain’t I?!
She sent me to have blood work done to be sure and she called the following day, Wednesday, to confirm the blood test also showed I was pregnant and my numbers were high. She then worked on getting me a referral to an OBGYN.
The following day, Wednesday and day 14 of bleeding, I was in bible study when I received a phone call from my doctor stating she had found a doctor for me (a great one, too) and to expect a call from them. A couple of minutes later, my phone rang again and it was my new OBGYN’s nurse calling to get some preliminary information. I know the women in bible study class probably thought I was acting strange. Although my phone was on silent, I think the nurse may have called me two to three times and I kept having to get up and walk out of the room. An appointment was set for sometime in November, I can’t remember the date but I remember thinking, “What am I supposed to do between now and then?”
I remember waking up in the middle of the night freezing cold and literally being mad at my husband for turning the air conditioner on so high, that is until I pulled back the covers and realized I covered in wet clothes from sweating so much during my sleep. I got to use the bathroom and change clothes, there were clots everywhere and I started to panic. Keep in mind, I’ve been bleeding for 14 days now, I’m pregnant, I don’t see my OBGYN for at least another four weeks. I can’t even be excited about this pregnancy because I don’t know if I have a reason to. Am I miscarrying? I have no clue what is going on.
That afternoon, I started feeling faint and my husband took me to the emergency room. After running a few tests and a vaginal ultrasound, the emergency room doctor told me my hCG levels which were higher than they were a couple of days earlier, a good sign. He also told me that the bleeding was caused by a left subchorionic hemorrhage. He also went on to say that I was maybe having what some would call “a threatened miscarriage” but he couldn’t say for sure. Well, that made me feel a lot better . I was told to give my doctor a call the following day and inform her of what was going on, which I did the following day.
On October 19th, day 19 of bleeding, I was back in the emergency room again. This time I semi-fainted and ended up in a wheelchair. I’ve never been good at getting my blood drawn and I normally do feel sick but never before have I actually dropped before. The same tests were run as before, including an ultrasound but this time a pelvic exam was also conducted. This emergency room doctor was a lot more informative and was very encouraging. Again, my hCG numbers had increased and the baby was still there. He confirmed the subchorionic hemorrhage and he also made a call to my doctor’s office to see if he could get me in sooner. He did say what the other doctor said as far as it being a threatened miscarriage but he also said it was common.
I remember after leaving the emergency room that time, I just prayed about it. Although I started reading information about subchorionic hemorrhages and found that it was very common and most women went on to have healthy babies, I still was worried.
The bleeding lasted for 28 days, I know this because it started October 1st and ended October 28th.
Unlike my previous two pregnancies, I have held onto this pregnancy news for well into my second trimester, to the point I already know the sex of the baby. Although tests and ultrasounds show we have a healthy baby, the beginning of this pregnancy made me want to be extremely cautious. I only told my immediate family and my closest friends. I didn’t want to have to suffer the pain of telling others and then having to report bad news later. The women in bible study group did know and they gathered around me and prayed over me. I know those prayers worked.
Regarding my blog, from mid-October to the first part of November I was just a nervous wreck and worried. Then it had been so long since I wrote anything, I started to question whether I should even continue.
So, how is everything today? Is everything okay?
Everything is great! Our family is excited to announce we will be having a beautiful baby girl join our crew the first week in June! That’s right, another girl! LOL!
I pray all has been well with all of you and I’m excited to get back to blogging, as well as some other great and exciting things that are coming up soon.
Now, about the blog name The Three Bees and Me…any suggestions?
For more information on a subchorionic hemorrhage or hematoma, click here http://www.justmommies.com/articles/subchorionic-hematoma.shtml